Men's Culture and The 'Pickup' Communityby Authentic Man I can see clearly how the Pickup community is an opportunity to experience 'Men's Culture' in a time where there is so little of it around. This is one of those Big Ones that guys often come back years later finally 'getting', so take a moment right now and allow this possibility to land as deep as you will... No doubt about it, men actually are having more positive interactions with women by studying seduction techniques and pickup practices. Many of them aren't, but thousands are. How? Possibly the most powerful factor behind men in the pickup communities having more positive interactions with women - The relationships they've been cultivating with Each Other. (Not just as wings either; I don't care how effective you are as a wingman, this runs a hell of a lot deeper than that.) There is a tangible vibe we give off when we have camaraderie with other men, getting real with each other, speaking the unspoken from a genuine desire for each other's excellence, having each other's backs... Shame automatically starts to melt away within authentic men's culture. Things we previously felt shame around (and consequently have us less solid around women) become the fodder for great jokes and moving connections with each other. You can think of this biologically as well. If a woman is seeking a mate who will serve as the protector of her offspring, is she going to be attracted to the guy who gets made fun of or picked on by the other guys in her ‘hood? Probably not, and if she did her offspring would get 'selected out' fairly quickly. Women nowadays are the product of genes that have her automatically feeling drawn to a man who defends his kinsmen and is defended by them; men who get invited on the really good hunting parties; men who carry that vibe of masculinity that comes with having healthy and supportive relationships with other men. Cultivating more authentic connections with other men is as impactful as anything we 'dating gurus' can teach you. So...a deeper cut still...will this pick-up stuff, The Game, etc, will it just be a brief fad, just a symptom of a society plagued by unprecedented levels of isolation and no sense of real community? Maybe...this work is starting to hit mainstream consciousness in a big way, and to the degree that it focuses on creating the appearance of genuine connection and attraction is the degree to which it will create a lot of controversy, make a lot of money, and then quickly fade as something that encouraged more superficiality than fulfillment in the world. What I see possible? A community, an extremely unique & extraordinary culture when you think about it, of men from around the world and from all walks of life, who begin to get real about something that is rarely acknowledged: Women are sooo important to us! Look at all the study and practice out there, conferences, email lists, products and boot camps...all for what? All in service of, at the very bottom of it all, men's deep, authentic desire to uplift everyone he interacts with... To authentically receive, be received, and literally to 'pick-up'. To find ways you could improve your success in relating with women and men check out our FREE Special Report from AMP on the Ultimate Guide to Overcoming ‘Inner Game’ Sticking Points with Women. Get it now: http://Authenticmanprogram.com Decker Authentic Man |
