Beware The Alpha Female

I want to start with an important point for the PUAs just starting out rather than the well seasoned advanced guys.
After a few hours of theory I regularly send my students out on day game. I accompany them to a bookstore, café, gallery, museum, music store, etc.
Before sending him on an approach, I remind him of the three vital elements of of seduction and the successful pick up, which I would have already taught him in the theory session. After helping him to locate his target, I find my position to make sure I can not only see him but hear him aswell, and off he goes, beaming with high energy, high status value and a general positive frame of mind.

This is a typical scenario with bookstore game, and a store such as Waterstones…a particularly large bookstore (7 floors) and where a surprisingly large amount of girls seem gather in the afternoon.
The Student goes in to open an HB 8, who is casually browsing the “self help” section (great start)
Student: “Hey, I was wondering if you could recommend me a good self help book, preferably one that says “money back guarantee” on the front cover.”
Girl turns around; initially a little startled but then relaxes in to a confident, relaxed smile.
HB 7: “Sure, this one is very good,” she holds up some book about self-help.
She continues.
HB 7: “Personally I’m getting this other one because I recently started a new job, and well, I thought it might help me out”
Student begins to relax too much WRONG!
Student cant believe his luck WRONG!
Student begins to ask closed questions WRONG!
Student: “Oh really? What job is that?”
HB 7: “Well I’m a P.A- I’m working for a complete dick, but hey, it’s a good salary so I guess it’s worth the trouble!”
She hands him said book
HB 7: “Anyway, this ones pretty good, I’m not sure if its money back guarantee though! So hold on to your receipt”
Student laughs along with her WRONG!
Sudent: “Oh thank you so much, this looks really good. So. You’re working for an dick, that must be tough”
HB 7:“yes it is, but I’m used to that, all my bosses have been dicks or worse. Ha-ha”
Students laughs with her again WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!
At this point I note that the Student has not even really looked at the book she had chosen for him, he is just dangling the book in his hand as she continues to dominate the conversation and make him look like a chump, and he in turn goes more and more back to all his old habits pre- theory. He’s acting like a complete AFC again!
Usually what happens next is one of 2 things. Either he does not ask for her number. Or if he does she says no to him…great result NOT.
She then goes back to looking for a book about getting one over her dick head boss (that she most probably fancies), and he goes off with a book he doesn’t want which he discretely dumps in a another section out of the view of her prying eyes.
Let’s now look at the following to help work out how this could have been handled Better….
What’s going on in an alpha females mind?

What’s going on in his mind?

What two mistakes do most men make?

What he should have done?

What’s Going On In An Alpha Female’s Mind
This woman prides her self in being an alpha female. She wakes up in the morning believing she has a high powered job, she looks in the mirror and says; “Hell yeah!” She’s probably quite pretty, she also knows men want something she has, but, at the same time she values herself as being out going and friendly and feels it is unnecessary to be a complete bitch if a man approaches her, she will at least hear him out.

In other words she would rather the man temporarily fall in love with her before saying a polite “Fuck off” rather than straight out “Fuck off, get out of my face”.
So when my student came over to talk to her, what she saw was yet another confident guy trying to make a move on her. She automatically went in to an over confident, helpful and friendly state of mind, knowing fall well this will allow her to dominate the conversation, and enable her to take it where she wants it to go, and end it when she wants to end it, thus confirming her status as an alpha female and the guy as a chump.

What’s Going On In His Mind
To begin with, he approaches a woman - half expecting her to be a little shy or on her guard, but thanks to theory he has been taught how to counter act these in set challenges.

So there he is, and much to his disbelief he has encountered a “friendly” and “out going” young women, she must like him because she’s talking to him so much, he‘s in here! She’s talking about her job, her boss and she’s even bending over backwards to help him find her a book, only a few more hours before she’s bending over backwards in his bed, screaming out his name (Mmm).

He’s thinking this is great; now its time to number close here I go! Either that or he will be thinking How can I ask her for her number, he might have the following going on in his mind. I feel uncomfortable, I can’t seem to get the conversation to move to that level and casually just ask her out. (Well what do you expect? She’s dominated the conversation exactly to where she wants, not where you want! You‘ve lost all your power)

Two Mistakes That Most Men Make
Most men will do the above, most of the time…but sometimes you might get someone who tries to be funnier than her, louder than her, and it’s not that she will not like it, but they might become the dreaded “male friend” (you know, the one everyone thinks is gay) rather than the potential lover.
Remember – she wants to meet her match, not her equal…remember, regardless of how much emphasis and importance you put on all of this, it’s all just a game.

What He Should Have Done
Now he is aware of how this type of alpha female works, he should automatically also be aware of the false sense of security she is creating for him, it’s a trap!
This woman is used to men hanging on her every last word, she is after all very funny, attractive and generally good fun. She’s also used to compliments, praise and being the centre of attention as well.

However, what she is subconsciously searching for is the man who comes along and challenges her, the man who is not so easily impressed with her looks and personality, and the man who expects more from his future conquests. He is the man who is used to hundreds of these type of girls, and wants more than what they appear to offer, she‘s going to have to work to get his attention and time.
Ok, so back on to what he should have done. Story so far, he’s asked the girl to help him find a self help book.

She goes on as before to speak about her new job with her crap boss. Note the fact that she is in a “self help” section, obviously not the strong stable alpha woman she makes out to be…..you can use this! This is called reading the situation in detail! (You can tell a lot from what books people read)

Now, his response should gone like this
:
Student: “Well in that case, I chose the right person to find me the right book - so lets see your suggestions”
This also makes the opener more genuine as well as giving her a task to perform. Note the s and the end of suggestion.
When she hands the book to him, he should examine the book properly, take his time and look through and then tell her she failed her task, and that her choice is terrible!
Student:” This book is not suitable, there’s no money guarantee and it doesn’t really cover what I want, try again”.
This will make her ask HIM a question-something she did not do in the first scenario.
Her response will probably be:
HB 7: “oh…Ok, so what sort of book are you looking for?”
He should say…
Student: “Well, its more a case that I’m looking for something that challenges my beliefs, I think its important to be open minded”

This of course is an open statement, and will give her room to either ask him more questions or agree or disagree with him. After all, who doesn’t want to be seen as open-minded? As she continues to search for the perfect book, he can then casually ask her about her job that she mentioned before; except this time it’s on HIS terms, not HERS, and he is in charge of the conversation and the direction in which it is heading. She would have by now from those simple alternative statements be more aware that he has high expectations but most importantly she’s not dominating the conversation as she did in the scenario before, he is in control.
It’s crucial to remain in control and in high status when doing pick up, no matter how easy it might appear for you to let her take the lead…don’t do it. He should then find it easier to take it to the number close section, and if he is able to continue his high status role, she will be only be too willing to give her number to the one who matched her… perhaps she’ll give him even more!

Kezia

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