Alpha AttitudesIf you set up the frame that she is ALREADY attracted to you, and act in every way congruent with that frame, then it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Watch your thoughts, they become your words; Always assume that she will fuck you! It's generally agreed that it's a good idea to always have a positive attitude, but take it one step further. ALWAYS ASSUME the BEST possible situation. I suppose "Make the Ho Say No" is the physical manifestation of this.
The most important part of a PU is leading HER states, and very little has been said on this subject. The ONLY way to lay a girl is to get her to feel sexually attracted to you, but there are certain steps you have to LEAD her through to get there. If you ASSUME her state as being positive, and conductive to your being able to proceed with the PU (ie. her state is that she is attracted to you, etc.), and you ACT AS IF she ALREADY feels this way, then you can create a frame based on this perception and draw her into your reality. If you set up the frame that she is ALREADY attracted to you, and act in every way congruent with that frame, then it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. If you talk, act, kino, use body language, etc. that is completely CONGRUENT with the FACT that she wants you, if you ACT AS IF she already wants you... then she will begin to feel that way. There's a psychological term for this that I can't remember right now, but it is similar to the "fake it till you make it" idea. So, for example, let's assume that you've approached a HB and are demonstrating value, alpha characteristics, etc. as per TFM... Your PU is going well, but doubt starts to creep into your mind... "Is she attracted to me? Am I making progress?" How should you deal with this? First, break your own state and reframe the situation. Change the defeatist frame of One great example of reframing that I can use as an analogy is Maniac's post about missing a date and REFRAMING the situ. when he called her. He did a total reversal and REFRAMED as if SHE was the one who had gotten the date time wrong. ("No, we weren't supposed to meet last night at 8:00, I have it right here in my schedule, it's tomorrow night", etc.) and made HER apologize since he had, by being confident, congruent and assertive, drawn her into his reality. You can do the same thing with ANY frame you want... use this to deal with shit tests, flakes, etc. Let me take this ANOTHER step further and relate it to the progression of her states during a PU. Here is a typical progression of the states she should go through during the PU: I say that Rapport is optional because experience will tell you that some girls don't even WANT to get to know you before you fuck them, although it is important in other ways. (See post in General for discussion) This is KEY: You can use this tool, of assuming her state, to LEAD her through these steps. Let's say that you've just approached, you are getting at LEAST signs that she is interested in you, that you've gained her attention. The NEXT logical step is attraction. You want her to feel attracted to you. So, you set that frame as if it were already true, and ACT AS IF she is attracted to you. Be confident. TOUCH her like she WANTS to be touched. (Example: Put your hands around her hips, hug her, etc... whatever you normally do AFTER you've put her in an attracted state.) Be congruent (meaning don't change your pacing too quickly, don't be apologetic if it SEEMS like she isn't into it, etc. You can TRANSITION from state to state by ASSUMING her NEXT state. If she's attracted and you're going for rapport, ASSUME rapport and act as if she's already there... and draw her into that reality... Continue this through the whole state progression, and watch your PU times get lower and lower.
What is the PUA aura? I've been thinking about it, and the vibe that I aim to put out. -positive energy
Be the good guy. A little cocky, cool sense of humour, but not trying too hard. Trying too hard to be macho/bold is beta because its overcompensating insecurities
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